Words. Communication. Human interaction. Relationships. These are things I think about. For work, to navigate my way as a parent. Even as a woman. I crave these things. I explore and study these things. I seek to improve these things. It is through these things that I find solace and comfort, where I find happiness and truth and passion, and where I’ve also found pain and vulnerability and loss.
I never read the book about 5 love languages. I skimmed it when a friend loaned it to me, and I’ve had enough people talk to me about it that I feel I understand the basic premise. And overall, I think it’s pretty interesting. I believe I need a combination of 2, maybe 3 of the love languages in order to feel satisfied. But here comes my question. Does a person’s love language also become their weakness? I know that words are something that speaks to me, that regular communication at a deeper, more personal level will spur me to form a deeper level of attachment to someone. To me it seems that getting to know someone is wrought with mine fields in this area. Especially in today’s day and age where technology leads us to do so much communication via writing. Part of me says, then you avoid it. At least at first. That way, the attachment forms slowly. But then you also run the risk of never having that form of love language in your life later down the road. My ex’s never read books or wrote to me. They just weren’t wired that way. I know now that I am, but if I find someone who is wired to speak my languages – how do I protect myself from falling too fast when they use their words on me? How do I protect myself from being manipulated or hurt by someone who figures out that words mean so much?
To me, it seems a love language, while good, can also be a weak point. That when exploited, could lead to disastrous results.
Definitely curious to other’s thoughts on this. Thanks for reading my ramble. 🙂